Wednesday, 4 April 2018

Community Safety Covert Bullying Vigilantism Rumour Spread Social Aggression '#MeToo's male backers must walk the talk'' The Age 16 February 2018 Due Process Rule of Law Social Exclusion Misandry Gender Specific approach to Crime Bullying Harassment

"Virtue signalling men who sell out other men to curry favour with women"

Bettina Arndt #malemisandry

The gender specific focus on harassment is concerning John Silvester as if Men aren’t vulnerable and females have no impact.
Firstly I understand people not liking wolf whistles although I wonder about their prevalence.
Much worse is the cat-calling of female bullies who target with social aggression rumour-spread the purpose is character assassination and female bullies are unaccountable
Wolf whistles are benign by comparison
Arthur Miller who researched the Salem witch-hunts to understand the McCarthyist witch-hunts said that panic is cyclical and in times of panic the moral weight is with the accuser, the hand that points the finger

#MeToo has way too much in common with social aggression. It is a lynch mob, it is denunciation it is not rule of law it is not due process it is not equal application of the law.

Historically denunciations are spurious mostly people “going the shaft” on someone they don’t like, on a rival where they stand to gain by the rival’s demise, attention seeking,.or to free themselves of suspicion.

If you only have rights when you’re liked you don’t have rights.

Electronic media is emotional and “Social” media is unaccountable.
If you are going to point the finger John well at least you as a journalist put your name to what you write and are accountable to defamation laws
Social media is unaccountable and reckless. Its users take no responsibility for the consequences of their actions.
Rule of law is up for grabs
We never hear “let those without sin cast the first stone” nor “If you wouldn’t say it to someone’s face don’t say it” anymore
It is important that people are accountable to cyberbullying laws, defamation laws and for complaints made not in good faith/ spurious complaints
Re harassment, sexual harassment includes staring. Ok I don’t like being stared at either and it is something female bullies do and after five years I still can’t raise it. In public situations, public transport, the shops, female strangers alternately openly ridicule me to everyone in earshot and switch to fearmongering attention seeking and portray me as some potential perpetrator threat to someone somewhere somehow.
Because they are female and unaccountable there is nothing I can do. I can’t call it out. Also I must be bad right because a female rumour spreader says so?
Edith Cowan University’s research into school bullying found that social aggression was the worst kind of bullying that victims of overt and covert bullying preferred verbal aggression and physical bullying to rumour spread.
The reckless hypervigilant era we live in has a muddied commentary on any man as a potential perpetrator and it is dressed up as community minded and we blame the victim/ target of rumour with another assumption, that they must deserve it.
An American female journalist said on Meet the Press that it was important that Harvey Weinstein with due process received appropriate penalties rather than have a muddied conversation about any man as a potential perpetrator.
Malcolm Fraser said “rule of law, due process, equal application of the law and respect of one person for another are necessary for a peaceful productive society.”
We’d better bloody hang on to what we’ve got
Lynch mobs are not the answer and the only people who gain from panic are panic merchants and bullies

Pete Dowe

I also felt concerned re former Lord Mayor Robert Doyle by a Melbourne City Councillor's comment on the News along the lines he may not have been ''keeping an eye out as much as one should.'' 
Although well meaning that attitude can lead to vigilantism and covert bullying / throwing a cloud over someone which also violates safe space guidelines
If you witness something sure but it's about empowering legitimate complainants to come forward NOT having a muddied conversation about any man as potential perpetrator

Pete Dowe

#MeToo's male backers must walk the talk

Here is a story I have not told before - which, according to the critics, makes it unusual in itself. I have been the subject of pointed and humiliating cat-calling.
Walking down the street minding my own business I was seen by a group of young men on the balcony of a flat as they enjoyed a few cool drinks on a warm night.
“F--- me, there goes Norman Gunston,” one yelled, accompanied by peals of laughter. As there was no one else in vicinity, I knew I was the subject of their mirth.
I was humiliated (actually it was pretty funny) but what if I elevated that incident to suggest I know what it is like for a woman to hear unwelcome and offensive comments while walking down the street?
I was not threatened, intimidated or frightened to travel that way again. I am not worried by footsteps behind me, unwanted advances nor will any sign of friendliness be misinterpreted as an invitation for something more. And at my age the only person remotely interested in staring at my chest is a cardiologist.
The events of Hollywood and closer to home have sparked the #MeToo movement and when men have attempted to add support, some of their statements have been at best ham-fisted.

There has been a push back at suggestions there is a difference between a wolf whistle that makes the victim uncomfortable and a sexual assault that leaves the victim scared for life.
So let me put forward the view of someone who has not been a victim but has dealt with plenty. There is a difference between being offensive and committing an offence.
When a jerk stares at a woman on a train he is a twerp being offensive. He rubs against her on the same train and he has committed sexual assault.
The stares, the whistles, the inappropriate behaviour must be confronted and the perpetrators made accountable. (Confession: Years ago in the guise of banter I sent someone an email that created offence. She sent a withering response that still leaves me embarrassed for one reason: She was right.)

Rose McGowan: a leading figure in the backlash against sexual harassment and abuse in Hollywood.
Rose McGowan: a leading figure in the backlash against sexual harassment and abuse in Hollywood.
Photo: Detroit Free Press via ZUMA
But criminal behaviour is different, for every sexist boor does not become a sexual predator and there is a difference between creeps and crooks.
Those who see the whole spectrum of inappropriate male behaviour as some sort of conveyor belt from clumsy pass to violence risk disrespecting the victims of serious sexual crimes.
Once, victims of such crimes brave enough to come forward felt further humiliated when their stories were deconstructed by detectives even before they reached court.
Now specialist investigators are more sympathetic, but the pendulum can swing too far. Sex crimes, like all other criminal prosecutions, must be evidence-based. It is grossly unfair on the accused and the accuser to go into a court with a case that is doomed to fail. Victims are done no favours if they are subjected to traumatic cross-examination when their testimony lacks the necessary corroboration.
You can believe a victim but still not prosecute when the evidence that would be presented does not prove the case beyond reasonable doubt.
Sometimes legitimate boiling anger can spill over to burn males who are trying to help. Take Mick Hughes, the former head of the Homicide Squad. Mick has seen more death than anyone should and has spent decades dealing with the most vulnerable and most dangerous. Back in 2015 he went to a park in Doncaster where schoolgirl Masa Vukotic had been murdered in what was clearly a random attack.
Hughes knew the offender was likely to strike again and said: “I suggest to people, particularly females, they shouldn't be alone in parks; I'm sorry to say that is the case. We have to be a little more careful. We need to look after each other.''

Detective Inspector Mick Hughes: A decent man slammed for giving sensible advice.
Detective Inspector Mick Hughes: A decent man slammed for giving sensible advice.
Photo: Justin McManus
He was belted on social media for victim blamingand was given the gratuitous advice to worry about catching the killer. For the record the Homicide Squad did and Sean Christian Price was convicted and sentenced to a minimum of 38 years.
People like Hughes aren’t part of the problem, they are part of the solution.
So is sexist behaviour and violence against women getting better or worse? Reports of family violence have increased but the view is that fewer people are prepared to suffer in silence.
All major companies have anti-bullying and sexual harassment policies that certainly didn’t exist years ago. But what about females working in small businesses? What would you do if you were desperate to keep your job just to pay the rent and the owner/boss was constantly hitting on you?
When I started in newspapers there were few female crime reporters in Melbourne (this despite the fact that Edna Buchanan from the Miami Herald was the best in the world).

Legendary crime reporter Edna Buchanan.
Legendary crime reporter Edna Buchanan.
Photo: Washington Post
In Sydney it was worse, with male crime reporters too timid to write about endemic, chronic corruption. Only Wendy Bacon and Marian Wilkinson from the National Times had the courage and nerve to write the truth.
I worked for a family-friendly newspaper where words such as "bastard" would not appear in print. And yet we ran a page three girl – often a bikini shot – with some of the models still school aged. It would never happen now.
Certainly standards change. A few years back I was at the suburban boxing, where patrons drank bourbon at world record pace. One drunk stood and yelled nonsense that was ignored by the crowd until it turned racist - then everyone turned on him. Comments that would have been tolerated at the footy in the 1980s are now outed for what they are.
Back in the 1980s I did a little radio spot on a Saturday morning, then Don Burke would follow with a popular gardening show. It was common knowledge he was a sleaze, yet it didn’t enter my head this was newsworthy.
It took Sydney Morning Herald gun journalist Kate McClymont to do the real reporting and expose him as a serial predator. We shouldn’t just make sympathetic noises and we should start showing it is not OK.

Don Burke, garden grub.
Don Burke, garden grub.
Photo: Stephen Baccon
So here goes. I have chosen not to name the offenders in the following three cases at the request of the victims, but if more complainants come forward that position will alter.
A businesswoman uses the popular LinkedIn network to further professional connections. Recently a man with a decent corporate profile asked for a connection and once he gained access he hit on her, leaving unwanted personal remarks (the invitation, it would seem, was she was smiling in her profile picture).
The funny thing is I know he reads this column and right now he is wondering: “Is he talking about me?”
Yes, “Michael”, it is you and this is your warning. I know you have done this at least twice and if a third comes forward then that profile picture - you know the one of you in the nice dark suit? It will be in this column with your name and the messages you sent. So pull up now.
There is the sewer rat that sniffs around Facebook looking for women who are financially disadvantaged then makes friendly contact - almost like a white knight. If they respond, the next message is to offer large sums of money for sex – in some twisted power fantasy.
You are so arrogant that if rejected you simply increase the cash offer, believing you can turn the financially vulnerable into prostitutes.
Once you make contact you are smart enough to delete your Facebook page, making you difficult to track. But not that difficult, “Peter”, not that difficult at all. You run a smart and successful business in Melbourne's eastern suburbs that would collapse overnight if you were exposed. And I wonder: are you using your own client base to find likely victims?
You are on notice. One more approach and you will face cyber stalking charges that carry the penalty of 10 years' imprisonment. In the meantime I’m sure the Tax Department would be interested to know how you managed to acquire so much spare and apparently untraceable cash in a business notorious for two sets of books.
Then there's the veteran and much-loved actor enjoying a lucrative twilight to his career. Recently he told a woman he just met he wanted to grab her in the manner made infamous by President Trump.
All the words of support mean nothing, as men learn by doing, not talking. One senior policeman once told me many young offenders lose their way because they have no male role models to show them how to be a man.
My father was a policeman of some note who had a keen sense of justice, protected the underdog and hated racism. If he ever gave me advice, other than ''get your hair cut'', I have long since forgotten it. But I do remember that when an unhinged teacher repeatedly hit my sister in the guise of corporal punishment, he marched into the school and threatened to charge her with assault. She resigned, saving many other girls from similar beatings.
The only question for men as #MeToo swirls around them is what sort of example do you wish to be?

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