Monday, 4 February 2019

Community Safety Murder Domestic Violence 43% were Male victims A man killed every 11.5 days in Australia 2017 Australian Bureau of Statistics


#dv #fv In Australia in 2017
43 of 75 (57%) FDV Murder victims were Female and
32 or 43% were Male victims
A man killed in FDV every 11.5 days in 2017

In 2017, 37% of Murders recorded nationally were FDV-related (75 victims), and a quarter (25%) of all Attempted murders were FDV-related (41 victims). Females comprised over half (57%) of all victims of FDV-related Murders (43 victims). (Tables 1 and 22)

http://www.abs.gov.au/ausstats/abs@.nsf/mf/4510.0

Sunday, 7 October 2018

Community Safety Gender Equality Submission by Pete Dowe about the proposed Victorian Government Gender Equality Bill




Submission by Pete Dowe about the proposed Victorian Government Gender Equality Bill

What do you think are the critical actions necessary for the success of gender equality legislation?

A Gender Equal approach to crime, bullying, harassment
An even-handed approach to gender
Respectful attitudes to gender
Address entrenched prejudice to gender

Defining what we mean by gender equality
Gender equality is later described as women’s equality

Ministerial Council on Women’s Equality

The Council will consist of between 8 to 14 members, all appointed by the Minister for Women. In appointing members to the Council, the Minister must ensure that the composition of members reflects the diversity of the Victorian community and that Aboriginal Victorians are represented.
This sounds like Tony Abbott as Minister for Gender Equality


What do you think is best practice in measures to support implementation of legislation that drives lasting social change?

Re   develop a Gender Equality Action Plan that encapsulates:
(a)     activities to be undertaken by the organisations to address gender equality internally within their workforce,

A Gender Equal approach to crime, bullying, harassment

We don’t have Championettes of Change

Spreading rumors and mocking someone's appearance may seem like schoolgirl behavior, but new research finds women can also bring that attitude into the adult world. The study calls this type of action "indirect aggression."
Tracy Vaillancourt, the study's author, told the "CBS This Morning" co-hosts that this type of hostility is used without getting caught; it is underhanded and not direct.
"We do things like we exclude people from the peer group, we give the silent treatment - you know that customary I won't speak to you for three weeks and then you have to figure out why I'm mad at you," said Vaillancourt. "We'll spread rumors about the person, so we'll disparage their appearance, we'll suggest that they're promiscuous, those sorts of things."


‘’Most damaging is turning the victim into a social "undesirable". The (female aggressive) behaviour and associated anger is hidden, often wrapped in a package seen as somewhat harmless or just a "girl thing". The covert nature of the (female) aggression leaves the victim with no forum to refute the accusations and, in fact, attempts to defend oneself leads to an escalation of the aggression."

Bullying in the Female World
The Hidden Aggression Behind the Innocent Smile Psychology Today Sep 03, 2011


‘’The major difference between genders is that for girls, holding social knowledge equates to holding social power as a means of manipulating their peers,’’
‘’it has been proposed that girls’ use of relational bullying is more aimed at inflicting interpersonal harm by manipulating a dyadic situation [182]

Covert bullying: A review of national and international research Australian Covert Bullying Prevalence Study (ACBPS) Authors Donna Cross Therese Shaw Lydia Hearn Melanie Epstein Helen Monks Leanne Lester Laura Thomas Data Analysis Australia Child Health Promotion Research Centre Edith Cowan University, May 2009


Dyad
Sociology
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Respectful attitudes to gender

Address entrenched prejudice to gender

 “Women write most of the books on human relations and over 80% of the purchasers are female. Most of these books tend to focus on Men, what they do wrong and how you can improve them. Most relationship counsellors and therapists are also women.”

 “If a woman slaps a man’s face in public, everyone assumes he’s in the wrong”

Why Men don’t have a clue...

Alan and Barbara Pease 2005

Misperception as reality
Men have lost control of their identity

I have a question: “If it is a patriarchy, who’s the dumb, inept bastard running it!?”

Pete Dowe

What right to a life does a Man have?
Where is the assertion of masculine needs?
An even-handed approach to gender?

Just entrenched prejudice projected onto masculinity that all a man wants is
Nonconsensual sex and violence
Sounds like a Hollywood Blockbuster

In Australia we have a gender specific approach to crime. Apparently there is no such thing as female perpetrators nor male victims. In any dispute between a man and a woman the man will be presumed to be in the wrong. Where a man is bullied by women or has a physically violent partner his side does not get a look in. Females are either unaccountable or unequally accountable for their negative impact. The assumption of the bad man potential perpetrator is a micro-aggression and legitimises female aggression and vigilantism.

What do you think is best practice in measures to support implementation of legislation that drives lasting social change?

  • All Victorians should live in a safe and equal society, have access to equal power, resources and opportunities and be treated with dignity, respect and fairness.
Gender-Equal Personal Civic and Social Responsibility
Gender Equal Application of the Law

We have panic in Australia re community safety. Fear of crime.
A muddied one sided conversation re community safety which confuses domestic/ family violence with public sphere violence, includes staring as harassment but not when a female fixates/ targets and legitimises a muddied conversation about any man as potential perpetrator

As Arthur Miller said “in times of panic the moral weight is with the accuser.” 

The neighbourhood is the new schoolyard, with women behaving like schoolgirls #socialexclusion #bullying dressed up as #crimeprevention and #communitysafety
‘’The major difference between genders is that for girls, holding social knowledge equates to holding social power as a means of manipulating their peers,’’

''in each school class there are rarely more than one or two children who are bullied.''
''This has served to reinforce the notion that the person who is being bullied must have done something wrong, or possesses some negative personality traits that encourages the rest of the group to reject them, resulting in lack of empathy on the part of the group towards them and the ‘illusion of the single target’ [198]''
''has been argued that in the case of relational aggression and covert bullying, the person who is initiating the bullying is likely to feel more protected if there is only one person being bullied''
‘’Contrary to popular belief that the role of groups is to maintain cohesion among individual members, and hence bullying might be a way of excluding those who jeopardise the group’s homogeneity, a study of 15 year old girls in Australia [192] found that even when a person who was bullied left the school, and hence no longer posed a threat, malicious rumours were spread to the new school. It has been suggested, therefore, that dysfunctional groups, with a high level of imbalance of power among members, are far more likely to use covert, manipulative forms of bullying [192].’’

Covert bullying: A review of national and international research Australian Covert Bullying Prevalence Study (ACBPS) Authors Donna Cross Therese Shaw Lydia Hearn Melanie Epstein Helen Monks Leanne Lester Laura Thomas Data Analysis Australia Child Health Promotion Research Centre Edith Cowan University, May 2009



Blaming masculinity for the wrongdoing of particular men is incredibly sexist and manipulative
Blaming innocent males
There is no respect for law abiding men

Male Misandry

Just virtue signaling male apologists who
1)      curry favour with women
2)      go along with feminism
3)      claim moral superiority over other males ‘’I’m better than him baby’’

while boys tend to use ‘rational-appearing aggression’ [109] to assist them to disguise their manipulation of the situation. Rational-appearing aggression can include interrupting, criticising, unfairly judging others and questioning others’ judgement, and is a form of aggression which can be presented as being ostensibly rational and concealed as not being aggressive at all [220]. 

whereas boys instead focus more on harming the person’s membership and status within the larger peer group [183].’’

Covert bullying: A review of national and international research Australian Covert Bullying Prevalence Study (ACBPS) Authors Donna Cross Therese Shaw Lydia Hearn Melanie Epstein Helen Monks Leanne Lester Laura Thomas Data Analysis Australia Child Health Promotion Research Centre Edith Cowan University, May 2009


Perhaps masculinity has been so successfully demonised by feminism re sex and violence that many males feel the only way to free themselves of suspicion and show themselves to be a good man is to falsely accuse/ unfairly judge other men

REAL MEN ARE EVENHANDED


What do you think is best practice in measures to support implementation of legislation that drives lasting social change?

To establish in legislation a set of gender equality principles and actions for achieving gender equality, accompanied with specific obligations to be implemented by public sector organisations to support those principles. The main obligations include:
2.        develop a Gender Equality Action Plan that encapsulates:
(a)     activities to be undertaken by the organisations to address gender equality internally within their workforce, and
(b)    policies, programs and services they can adopt that further improve gender equality amongst their direct stakeholders and the wider community

Structural violence must be addressed
 ‘There is nowhere for us to go’: Domestic violence happens to men too
“There is nowhere for us to go. It’s not like I can just pick up the kids in the car and go to somewhere safe,” he says.
The story of male domestic violence victims is not one you often hear. But when news.com.au put a call out for blokes who were willing to share their experiences, we received 15 responses. Within these personal accounts, the impossibility of finding community support was a recurring theme.

When Nick reached out for support from his GP, she referred him to a counsellor, who promptly told him: “‘Men can’t be victims of domestic violence, not in the same way as women.’ And that was just absolutely devastating.”
Similarly, Nick says the only time he tried to take out an Apprehended Violence Order (commonly known as an AVO or in some states, a VRO) against his wife, police indicated he was the one who would be removed from the family home because “custody of the children should remain with the mother, unless she’s been violent towards the kids.”




Do you agree that these are the critical principles and actions that should underpin the legislation? What should be added, or needs to be changed?

Advancing gender equality is a shared responsibility across the Victorian community
Supporting the principles is a set of proposed actions for defined entities in the development of a Gender Equality Action Plan. These are to:

      have regard to the negative impacts of gender stereotypes on all Victorians and the importance of challenging gender stereotypes

Gender-Equal Personal Civic and Social Responsibility
Gender Equal Application of the Law

Respectful attitudes to gender

Address entrenched prejudice to gender


Contemporary Victorian attitudes towards Males are
he’s just someone for a woman to use to get what she wants or
he’s a potential perpetrator holding women back.
He’s got too much or
he’s got too little because he’s an idiot who musta dun somethin to deserve his fate
the poor sad old lying bastard mediocre white man.

These attitudes are very manipulative and controlling and disrespectful
Not much of a life
Just a potential perpetrator holding women back
entrenched prejudice projected onto masculinity that all a man wants is
Nonconsensual sex and violence

'Perpetuating the myth of only one gender of perpetrators leads to the gender specific approach to crime the male as #potentialperpetrator the assumption of the bad man, guilty until proven innocent and now the law-abiding male as potential #timebomb Danger UXB! 

"He hasn't done anything wrong YET!" tick tick tick tick.'


Honestly if law-abiding males aren't up to snuff your attitudes are unreasonable and unreasoning.


The Dis-Respect Agenda

Advancing gender equality is a shared responsibility across the Victorian community
Supporting the principles is a set of proposed actions for defined entities in the development of a Gender Equality Action Plan. These are to:


      improvements in physical and mental health on both men and women.

Scratch the surface of concerns over male suicide and it degenerates into prejudice and evaporates
Disseminating/ perpetuating the myth of only one gender of perpetrators. This leads to the gender specific approach to crime the male as #potentialperpetrator which we have today. The assumption of the bad man, guilty until proven innocent and now the law-abiding male as potential #timebomb Danger UXB! "He hasn't done anything wrong YET!" tick tick tick tick All Males are a 60 Minutes ad?
so much pseudo community safety is talking about things that aren't wrong because it might lead to something wrong. Might be misperceived as leading to something wrong. This creates a power imbalance, leads to the rise of the “finger pointer” as community servant. And the disempowered hapless target is supposed to justify their existence. Live on other people's terms in fear of being misperceived.
The Dis-Respect Agenda
Honestly if law-abiding males aren't up to snuff your attitudes are unreasonable and unreasoning.
If someone really was a ticking time bomb how would you defuse the situation? By hounding them? Denigrating them? Holding them up to ridicule/ contempt/ social exclusion? Great! That's really helpful.

“Women write most of the books on human relations and over 80% of the purchasers are female. Most of these books tend to focus on Men, what they do wrong and how you can improve them. Most relationship counsellors and therapists are also women.”

Why Men don’t have a clue...

Alan and Barbara Pease 2005

Male suicide

There is no concern here for Male wellbeing. Men are just stupid and wrong, defective females, they should be like girls.
They have no feelings. They have the wrong feelings. They were upset over nothing something ridiculous. They didn’t show their vulnerability Didn’t talk to someone Men need to be in control can’t accept lack of control
He’s dead because he’s an idiot
He’s dead because he’s a stupid idiot man
Male suicide therefore is not a social issue
just stupid idiot masculinity
Man bad
woman good
 Male wrong
female right

I wonder exactly how a man is supposed to show his vulnerability in a society that has defined him as a potential perpetrator holding women back time bomb who ought be ridiculed
When he is suffering and hence showing his vulnerability you see time bomb threat to community safety

What kinds of public sector targets should be included in the regulations of the Gender Equality Bill?
I’m more concerned that those holding public office hold respectful even-handed approaches to gender and seek to serve on behalf of the whole community

Pete Dowe



Saturday, 29 September 2018

Community Safety has been hijacked by female bullies Bullying CyberBullying Covert Bullying Rumour Spread Social Exclusion Social Undesirable Social Contagion Fear of Crime Panic Hyper Vigilance Indirect Aggression Social Aggression




Community Safety has been hijacked by female bullies

The Neighbourhood is the new schoolyard with women behaving like schoolgirls

''The major difference between genders is that for girls, holding #socialknowledge equates to holding social power as a means of manipulating their peers"


‘’A further aspect of using the peer group as a method of bullying is the opportunity for rapid transmission of emotions and behaviours through a crowd, diffusing the level of individual responsibility [184], so that each member feels less responsible for the victimisation, a process referred to as #socialcontagion ‘’


Fear alliances, Fear disguised as care Rumour disguised as important social knowledge. ‘’Just so you KNOW. I thought YOU should know’’

''Cyberbullying has become the latest negative tool in the bully’s toolbox. Here, the bully can attack, create cliques, gossip, spread rumors, and character-assassinate their target, anonymously. As a result of the anonymity of the Internet, this relational aggression is particularly toxic.’’
 

Girls Who Bully and the Women They Learn From



The In Crowd

“The question of why other members of the group participate (in rumour spread) appears to be related to their need to belong and their fear of being excluded [186; 187]. 
For example, while many students may not agree with bullying [188; 189], most students fail to support the person being bullied [190]. 

Studies of adolescent cliques suggest that while clique members may not believe the rumours they are told, their main reason for going along with it is for fear of exclusion [191]

As Garandeau and Cillessen [139] suggest, bullying in this way becomes like following a trend, a ‘fashionable’ thing to do, making them look good and reinforcing their sense of belonging.

Contrary to popular belief that the role of groups is to maintain cohesion among individual members, and hence bullying might be a way of excluding those who jeopardise the group’s homogeneity, a study of 15 year old girls in Australia [192] 

found that even when a person who was bullied left the school, and hence no longer posed a threat, malicious rumours were spread to the new school. It has been suggested, therefore, 

that dysfunctional groups, with a high level of imbalance of power among members, are far more likely to use covert, manipulative forms of bullying [192]’’


 ‘’It may be time to change how we refer to what is now called “cyberbullying” — aggression via the internet — to capture more effectively its lasting damage. Included in its meaning must be the power of the aggressive content (what the words say, or the image depicts) further enhanced by the power of the various media available to conveying the content – the Internet, email, cell phones, Facebook, and Twitter – all of which then alters the actual destructive psychological and social experiencing of being bullied to one of being stalked.’’

Ditta Oliker The Lasting Damage of Cyberbullying

''...the effects of social aggression can be longer lasting and more damaging than physical aggression.  Since the "weapons" have a stealth nature to them, there is less possibility of anticipating the specifics of an attack and fewer actions to defend against an attack.''

‘’A recent development in social aggression is cyber bullying, acted out by both sexes.  


In this type of aggression, the perpetrator uses social networking tools - email, Facebook, Twitter - to inflict damage, particularly the spreading of socially harmful rumors of others.  Recent reports of several suicides by young adolescents who were targeted speak to the damaging power of this kind of aggression.’’

Ditta Oliker
Bullying in the Female World

Covert bullying: A review of national and international research Australian Covert Bullying Prevalence Study (ACBPS) Authors Donna Cross Therese Shaw Lydia Hearn Melanie Epstein Helen Monks Leanne Lester Laura Thomas Data Analysis Australia Child Health Promotion Research Centre Edith Cowan University, May 2009





Sunday, 15 July 2018

Community Safety Cyber Bullying Social Aggression ''The Lasting Damage of Cyberbullying'' Ditta M. Oliker Ph.D ''...the Internet, email, cell phones, Facebook, and Twitter – all of which then alters the actual destructive psychological and social experiencing of being bullied to one of being stalked.’’


''the Internet, email, cell phones, Facebook, and Twitter – all of which then alters the actual destructive psychological and social experiencing of being bullied to one of being stalked.’’




The Lasting Damage of Cyberbullying

‘’The act of “cyberbullying” holds a strange paradox for me; it is an act that can be devoid of any direct social connection and yet, because of the technology and social media sites it uses, it can be hyper-social. For an adolescent, this can be particularly damaging since it can permeate and distort every aspect of a teenager’s social life, at a stage in life when peer relationships are so vitally important.’’

‘’It may be time to change how we refer to what is now called “cyberbullying” — aggression via the internet — to capture more effectively its lasting damage. Included in its meaning must be the power of the aggressive content (what the words say, or the image depicts) further enhanced by the power of the various media available to conveying the content – the Internet, email, cell phones, Facebook, and Twitter – all of which then alters the actual destructive psychological and social experiencing of being bullied to one of being stalked.’’



''...the effects of social aggression can be longer lasting and more damaging than physical aggression.  Since the "weapons" have a stealth nature to them, there is less possibility of anticipating the specifics of an attack and fewer actions to defend against an attack.''

‘’A recent development in social aggression is cyber bullying, acted out by both sexes.  



In this type of aggression, the perpetrator uses social networking tools - email, Facebook, Twitter - to inflict damage, particularly the spreading of socially harmful rumors of others.  Recent reports of several suicides by young adolescents who were targeted speak to the damaging power of this kind of aggression.’’

Ditta Oliker

The Lasting Damage of Cyberbullying

Posted on March 14, 2013 by crpmaster

The act of “cyberbullying” holds a strange paradox for me; it is an act that can be devoid of any direct social connection and yet, because of the technology and social media sites it uses, it can be hyper-social. For an adolescent, this can be particularly damaging since it can permeate and distort every aspect of a teenager’s social life, at a stage in life when peer relationships are so vitally important.
As I wrote in my last blog, aggression was, until fairly recently, the domain of the male and “bullying” was synonymous with a young male who was physically aggressive. The word “bully” is usually associated with male actions, not female ones.Social or relational aggression — ignoring, teasing, gossiping, excluding, secrets, backstabbing, and rumor spreading — now associated with the female, stayed under the radar of study, with the aggressive behavior often wrapped in a package seen as harmless, or just a “girl thing”. What was most damaging was turning the victim into a social “undesirable” and that the covert nature of the aggression left the victim with no forum to refute the accusations.
“Cyberbullying” takes the covert and hidden even further, allowing the perpetrator a greater opportunity to remain anonymous, leaving the victim even less of a chance to refute or avoid the damage of the accusations. The term has generally been defined as using the power of the Internet – emails, chat rooms, instant messaging and social networking sites, as well as cell phones — to send or post text or images meant to hurt, embarrass and humiliate another person.It can include threats, harassment, stalking, impersonation, trickery and exclusion. Both perpetrators and victims can be male or female and are usually older adolescents. In an interesting twist, when adults perpetrate similar aggressive behavior using the Internet, it is generally called cyberstalking.
When bullying was limited to physical or social aggression between perpetrator and victim, there usually was some direct contact between them, although it was limited to shared meeting places, like school or clubs. A safe haven would be any place that would offer an environment free of one’s peers, i.e. home. The special aspect of “cyberbullying” that is particularly damaging for a young person is the void of a safe haven away from it; for as long as a young person has a cell phone and Internet access, the borderless nature of cyber communications permeates all spaces he or she exists within, with the negative messages continuing to bombard the psyche.
All these aspects combine to create a situation for the young person that is physically, emotionally and socially damaging. If the victim attempts to fight back, the perpetrator increases the “I’m going to get you” attacks, forcing a state of resignation. The bullying also has a reputational effect so that the stigmatization endures even after the actual bullying has stopped. The distortions and lies that get bonded to one’s reputation become internalized, leading to feelings of hopelessness and despair. It is these feelings that can lead a young victim to decide that life is not worth living.
It may be time to change how we refer to what is now called “cyberbullying” — aggression via the internet — to capture more effectively its lasting damage. Included in its meaning must be the power of the aggressive content (what the words say, or the image depicts) further enhanced by the power of the various media available to conveying the content – the Internet, email, cell phones, Facebook, and Twitter – all of which then alters the actual destructive psychological and social experiencing of being bullied to one of being stalked.
The post was written by Ditta Oliker, author of the book THE LIGHT SIDE OF THE MOON
The post was written by Ditta Oliker, author of the book, The Light Side of the Moon – Reclaiming Your Lost Potential.